On Being Worn Out

peter rigo drainedAs a church, One Community’s goal is to answer the real questions. We all know about creation, we all know about the Ark, we all know that Jesus died for our sins, but the heart of this house is to give real answers to real questions facing Christians all over the world.

Here’s a question: You always here that relationships take work and time and sacrifice, but there’s a fine line between that and a negative relationship destroying you while you try to keep it alive. Are you giving too much in a relationship when you feel like you’re drained?

The question is can you ever give too much? The law of sowing and reaping says you can’t. Whatever you sow is what you reap. But I don’t necessarily think the challenge in a relationship is giving enough. It’s what are you eating in order to give?

It’s not just the outflow, there has to be an inflow. And in order to have something to give, you have to have a supply. So in a relationship, when you feel exhausted and worn out and spent, the problem is not what has gone out of you, it’s that you’re underfeeding yourself in order to replenish that supply.

Because ultimately, in order to love another human righteously or really, it takes Christ’s love in you. Because ultimately, human love is self-seeking and self-centered. So when we go and we fill up in our relationship with God, when we feed on his word, when we have good fellowship within the body, we will have enough to give.

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but the truth is that is a lie. It is a lie from the pit of hell. If you are away from your spouse for long periods of time, you will go disinterested, it’s a fact. The same is true in your relationship with God. If you miss out on participating with the body of Christ for long periods of time, you’ll start to spiritually starve. And then it’s not long before you’re disinterested and exhausted.

As long as you have Jesus in your heart, you will have enough to give. If you’re feeding on the word and the love of God and you still have nothing to give a relationship, that would be a sign that that particular relationship might need to be reconsidered. But only if you are truly participating with the body of Christ. In your search for truth and for the correct path, start there, as you would in any other situation. Evaluate your relationship with God before you question your relationship with another person.